2 Divorce Challenges That Often Trip Up Children. Whether your divorce is pending or five years behind you, your children continue to process the reality according to their age and level of understanding. There are several concepts that cause the most emotional turmoil for children. Being aware of these sensitive areas can help parents address […]

Single This Summer?  Why You Should Consider A Solo Vacation My favorite place in the world is Cape Cod, Massachusetts. I’ve been vacationing there since I was a child, and as an adult I’ve shared my favorite spots with my romantic partners (there’ve been a few over the decades).\ In 2011, I endured the end […]

Follow These Expert Tips For A Better New Beginning   When I sat down to write about new beginnings, countless ideas flourished in my mind. I reflected on several stories I’ve heard about events that contributed to someone’s fresh start.   Although many of these experiences are inspirational, over time, I have identified a disconnect that […]

The Three P’s of Divorce Not every divorce experience is alike. You probably know people who had a miserable divorce and other people who had a relatively painless divorce. So what causes a divorce to go one way or the other? A huge factor in your divorce experience is your mindset. You can choose to […]

How To Begin A New Relationship With (or a new regard for) Your Ex. One question I commonly receive from my clients is, “How should I refer to my ex?  What should I call them?” This question is borne from the fact that the marital relationship is over, and the couple is starting something new. […]

The Benefits of New Beginnings Nobody gets married to get divorced. When you walk down that aisle you think it will be happily ever after. This usually isn’t the reality for anybody and about 43% of us will actually end up getting divorced. Divorce doesn’t have to be a negative, shameful or painful experience.  As […]

New Beginnings College.  What does this have to do with divorce?  Plenty!  As you are beginning a brand new journey as possibly a single parent, your children may be approaching high school and college, or are already in college, where they are embarking on their own brand new journey. As you know, with separation and […]

Explore All Your Possibilities After Divorce Have you ever given any thought to your hidden talents? Or exploring hidden talents that you never fully developed? Hint hint…you picked up the guitar but quit because you didn’t have time…or your spouse told you that you didn’t have the talent. It is also time to revisit your […]

Forget It… I’ll Just Date Myself! How an online dating profile changed my life. Following my divorce in 2015, I was longing for a relationship – I wanted the romance and thrill that dating promised. I’d heard about online dating but never thought I was “that girl,” and then I learned that one of my […]

3 Things My Divorced Parents Did Well, And 1 Thing They Didn’t.   I was 13 years old when my parents separated, and had no idea what to expect. We lived in a small town.  I had a couple friends with divorced parents, but it wasn’t something we talked about.  And this was decades ago, […]

The Top 5 Things Parents Should Consider When Negotiating A Parenting Plan One of the most rewarding things about being a divorce mediator is assisting families in tailoring their own unique parenting plans that help ensure their success down the road. A parenting plan is really a roadmap for the divorced parents in how to […]

Considering divorce? 6 Questions You Need to Answer. You married your spouse because you thought this was the person for you and you’d be together forever. You never thought about divorce. But then you started fighting and things got worse. You feel lonely even when you’re with your partner. You may feel anger, resentment, shame […]

Where To Set Your Post-Divorce Boundaries. We hear a lot about boundaries these days, especially when we talk about separation and divorce.  Why is that? The way I like to describe it is that boundaries serve two purposes: To protect you from external threats. To provide you with the freedom of a safer space. When […]

What Your Coping Strategies Are Teaching Your Kids Josh was in my 2013 co parenting class for divorced parents. He shared with the group that, when he was young, his dad worked from home and his mom worked in an office.  “I always thought it was kinda weird that my dad worked at home and […]

Apps for Co-Parenting in a Modern World Most parents would admit that raising children is hard work. Parenting gets even more difficult when you are co-parenting. Whether you get along well with your ex or dealing with them is a nightmare, parenting in two households is a challenge. Luckily, co-parenting apps exist to make things […]

Forever Parents In my divorce mediations with minor children involved, I always come back to the children to try and remind the parties of their common bond and interest. No matter what has transpired during the marriage they will remain the parents and one day be grandparents together. This big picture outlook is helpful in […]

College Financial Prep: Negotiating Your Way To Your Best Offer. I had an awful experience this past weekend.  I’m a divorced mom and I found a flood in my basement.  I was absolutely ready to panic!!!  After I had some help by phone locating my water main to turn off the water in the house, […]

10 Radical Self-Care Tips to Help You Through Divorce. (Hint: It’s not about a spa day). Divorceify professional, divorce coach and financial advisor, Jennifer Lawrence, gives us 10 tips for radical self-care that will help you survive and thrive through your divorce. This post originally appeared on Jen Lawrence’s blog. When people think about self-care, they often […]

I Think We Need a Divorce… Now What? Whether you and your spouse feel confident that divorce is the best next step, or you are just beginning to explore your family restructuring options, preparing to move forward can feel daunting.  For most of us, the divorce process is unfamiliar. Knowing where to start can make […]

How To Plan For College And Manage Your Divorce In The New Year. With the start of the new year comes the start of many breakups and divorces.  It’s hard for any one person to truly wrap their arms around all of the emotional and financial turmoil when thrust into this new world of attorneys, […]

Considering Divorce? Here’s the #1 Thing to Do Before Anything Else. One of my favorite sayings about life is … “It’s 10% what happens, and 90% in how you deal with it.”  Or, “Attitude is everything, pick a good one.”  Divorce is no different.   Divorce happens to good people every day. But have you ever stopped […]

How To Start Your Divorce There’s a reason why January is known as divorce month. Many couples opt to wait until after the holidays to face the music. This leads to an influx of fresh divorce filings in the new year. People really have this desire to make things better in the coming year. Plus, […]

Help Your Kids Transition to Two Homes.   Sara Olsher, CEO of Mighty + Bright, wanted a way to help her toddler cope with the transition to two households — so she created one! In today’s blog post Sara shares her own experience getting divorced, the inspiration behind Mighty + Bright’s custody calendar for kids. […]

New Year’s Resolution?  I’d Rather Set An Intention. I remember being in elementary school and having to write my resolutions for each new year. I recall a yellow sheet of tablet paper containing the penciled words “keep my room clean.” I made that my new year resolution idea for several years, and decades later I […]

7 Tips to Ease The Holiday Blues.    Most of us can agree that 2020 has been a crazy year. Forget large holiday parties,  even small gatherings are not recommended. In this post, Certified Divorce Coach,  Sharri Freedman shares 7 tips to help make the season less lonely. This post  originally appeared on Sharri Freedman’s […]

Mortgage Financing: Using Child Support And Alimony To Qualify For A Mortgage. If you will need mortgage financing post-divorce, it’s important to understand how various income sources from – Alimony to Employment, Child Support and more – are considered for purposes of obtaining a mortgage. Hiring a mortgage professional that specializes in Divorce Mortgage Lending […]

Are your QDRO Procedures Leaving you Exposed? If you are a divorce professional involved in dividing retirement assets and preparing QDROs, you’ll want to read these three tips from financial advisor, Adam Waitkevich, to help improve your process and reduce post-divorce liability from financial mistakes.  This article originally appeared on Adam Waitkevich’s blog. Nearly every […]

Divorcing with Kids: Why Mediation Might Be The Best Approach.   Getting a divorce is difficult enough without having to consider children, but many couples are faced with the additional stressful decisions of child custody and support when their marriage ends. Typically when a marriage involving children dissolves, custody is the first thing that is […]

5 Tips For Communicating With A Difficult Co-Parent. Effective Co-parenting in a divorce can change a child’s entire experience.  Finding the right path to establishing a healthy relationship with your co-parent is challenging but can be complicated when dealing with a difficult co-parent.   Divorce coach and Divorceify pro, Cherie Morris gives us 5 tips […]

How To Gain Clarity By Practicing Mindfulness. Practicing mindfulness can bring great clarity as you navigate your divorce process.  Divorce coach, Dede Hallerman, discusses how to practice mindfulness, gain clarity and keep your sanity. This article originally appeared on Dede’s blog. We hear the word “mindfulness” often in today’s culture. But do we really understand […]

DIY + Divorce: Is It Right For Everyone? Do-it-yourself Divorce (DIY Divorce) is easy enough when a couple has no assets, debts, or children.  However, if a divorcing couple has children and or needs to divide assets and debts, then DIY+ is the smartest and least expensive way to divorce. DIY+ is a means of […]

Co-Parenting During the Holidays: 7 Tips To Avoid Santa’s Naughty List. Holiday season 2020 is upon us and celebrations can bring added stress to separating and  divorcing parents who are in conflict. Add a pandemic into the mix and the merriest season  becomes a pressure cooker.  What leads to conflict? Unless parents already have an […]

Feeling anxious about the holiday season? Bring calm and clarity with these 4 tips. This holiday season looks a little bit different this year for everyone. But if you are getting divorced or recently divorced, there are added nuances that might make the holidays feel like a challenge. Maybe you are feeling sad that you […]

Never Overlook the Details in Your Divorce Agreement: Here’s Why. By: Rosemarie Ferrante, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shonahan Rosemarie Ferrante, Esq., is a family attorney focusing on non-adversarial divorce through mediation and collaborative divorce. She is the founder of The Divorce Mediation Center of Ridgefield/Danbury LLC,  Karen Chellew and Catherine Shonahan, CDFA,  are the founders […]

Holidays and Divorce.   The holiday season is fast approaching. Family, food, fun and cheer, right? Maybe not so much for anybody this year with the global pandemic still going strong and suggestions by our local leaders to keep gatherings to a minimum. For families of divorce there is even more to consider as this […]

How High-Achieving Divorced Women Can Manage And Grow Their Wealth.  For high-achieving women, the pressure of managing the increasing demands at work rarely end when they return home, this is especially true for those who have recently divorced and are adjusting to managing life as a single.  As stewards for their family, they look after, […]

The Amicable Divorce: A Different Way To Divorce. There are many different ways to get divorced and no one divorce process fits everyone’s circumstances equally. It’s important to learn about different ways to get divorced. Most people know about going to court and litigating, but perhaps your circumstances allow you to take advantage of a […]

Divorce, College and Conflict Management. The topic of College, while filled with elation for our children, is often filled with confusion, dread, fear and very often, conflict, not only amongst divorcing or divorced parents, but also with the children whom of course the parents love very much. So what is it about this exciting time […]

Thinking about divorce? Stay calm and get organized.   Just the thought of divorce and the costs of divorce can be extremely stressful.  Stress comes primarily from the fear of the unknown. While fear and stress are completely normal, keep reading and learn how to replace both with calm and a plan. First, you need […]

Surviving And Thriving After Divorce: 5 Things You Need to Know    Today we are sharing the wisdom and expertise of Paulette  Rigo, Certified Divorce Coach, Parenting Expert and Mediator. In this interview by Ilyssa Panitz, which originally appeared on Authority Magazine, Paulette shares five things you should know in order to survive and thrive […]

Pets and Divorce: 5 Guidelines for Mediators. How should mediators think about pets when facilitating a divorce mediation?  Pet custody consultant, Karis Nafte gives us 5 guidelines that you should follow as a mediator when dealing with pets in a divorce.  This article originally appeared on Karis Nafte’s blog. These five guidelines for mediators are […]

10 Things You Should Know About Divorce During a Pandemic. There are many nuances to the divorce process, but divorce during Covid brings new considerations that you might need to make.  Here, divorce coach, Jen Lawrence, walks us through ten things to know about divorce during Covid. This article originally appeared on Divorce Mag. What do […]

It’s Time For A  Professional Divorce Coach. I met my ex-husband in 1976 as a divorced father of 2 girls. I watched what he and his ex-wife did to these precious little angels as bitter, angry divorced parents. They had nowhere to turn, as there were no resources back then.  The practice of law regarding […]

Divorce, College and The Brilliant Child. It happened yet again, last night. Great parents, a brilliant child (no joke), a pending divorce and they wanted to find merit aid for college because likely neither parent will qualify for need based aid and they certainly will not qualify for financial aid if both parents should need […]

What Custody Arrangements Miss: The Mental Load. As a mother you are constantly juggling millions of incremental tasks – from the minute details to the big picture decisions of your children’s lives. Matrimonial attorney, and Divorceify professional, Elizabeth Erickson, discusses a nuance that we often don’t consider, but should, when designing co-parenting agreements and custody […]

Curious About A Divorce Coach? The Value. The Opportunity. The Investment…IN YOU.   As an individual navigating divorce – How can a divorce coach help you bring your A game (at a time when you don’t quite have it).  This is PART 1 of a 2 part series. We know the value of eating healthy, […]

Divorce Consulting: The Alternative to Litigation There are many different types of professionals that can help make your divorce process more smooth and cost effective.  One such professional is a divorce consultant, also known as a consulting divorce attorney – a legal advisor that can help you through different divorce processes in different capacities from […]

Creative Time-Sharing For The Modern Divorce. Custody is one of those keywords we all know from divorce. It usually doesn’t bring up positive thoughts. We tend to drift to thoughts of contentious fights, heartbreak and loss of control. When you are used to seeing your child everyday how on earth can a plan be made […]

I’m a Divorce Coach.  Yes, That’s a Thing. “A divorce coach?  What’s that?” “Where were you when I got divorced?” “We don’t need that.  We’ve been married for twenty years.” These are just some of the reactions I receive when people find out what I do.  There’s generally a moment of surprise… followed by either […]

 5 Truths About Prenups. Thought about a prenup but got cold feet? There are many myths surrounding the prenuptial agreements that can often cloud the truths about what a prenup really is and how it can be a helpful strategy for a successful marriage.  But, what is a prenup really? Family law attorney, mediator and […]