I’m a Divorce Coach. Yes, That’s a Thing.
“A divorce coach? What’s that?”
“Where were you when I got divorced?”
“We don’t need that. We’ve been married for twenty years.”
These are just some of the reactions I receive when people find out what I do. There’s generally a moment of surprise… followed by either curiosity or defensiveness. And, I understand. I know it sounds a little crazy.
How Did I Get Here?
I’m a child of divorced parents. I’m an ex-wife. I’m a “next” wife. And I’m the previous partner of a divorced dad. Overall, my experience with divorce has been positive. But, I know I’m not the norm. That’s why, more than ten years ago, I began searching for a way to help others through this massive transition. I wanted to change the conversation around divorce. And I wanted to change the approach. Or, at least help individuals employ a healthier response to what happens in their lives.
So, What Do I Do?
I work with conscious and compassionate divorcees (men and women) to help them transform their conflict and confusion into clarity, confidence, and control over their relationships, their process, and their lives. I offer personalized private coaching, as well as online courses, and web-based group programs. I work with people at all stages of the process, whether they’re just getting ready to ask for a divorce, or they’ve been divorced for years but are still co-parenting with an ex. It’s never too late. You never stop being divorced.
What’s The Difference Between Coaching and Therapy?
There’s a great analogy for this: imagine you’re carrying a suitcase. If you take the suitcase to a therapist, s/he will help you open the suitcase, examine the contents, and ask some important questions about what’s inside. A coach, on the other hand, might ask a few questions about what you’ve packed, but ultimately the coach’s job is to find out where you want to travel with your suitcase, and then explore the best way to get there.
Therapy is deep while coaching is directional. Both can be extremely helpful to someone dealing with divorce.
What Issues Do I Help With?
My clients come to me with a variety of problems related to parenting/co-parenting, communication, self-care, self-esteem, mindset, next steps, and more.
Much of my work with my clients involves helping them develop self-awareness. When you know your feelings, needs, and goals, you’re much more empowered to make positive changes in your situation.
What Do I Believe?
- I believe that a good divorce is better than a bad marriage.
- I believe divorce is about evolution, not dissolution.
- I believe divorce is not a problem- it’s a solution to a problem.
- I believe people grow and change, and so do relationships, and that’s OK.
- I believe everyone stays together “until death due us part” because nobody is the same person they were on their wedding day.
- I believe that one person has a lot of power in a conflict. You might not be able to steer the train to Sunshine Town, but you can probably stop it from going off a cliff.
- And I believe that divorce is a birth of sorts. It’s painful and messy, but it brings forth the priceless gift of a new life.
What Do My Clients Get By Working With Me?
I work to help my clients to find acceptance in the end of their relationship as well as gratitude for the person with whom they shared and important journey. Through awareness and practice, my clients learn to communicate with clarity and model effective conflict management strategies for their children (or anyone else who might be watching). After coaching, my clients feel confident and capable in facing the challenges that arise as they move ahead. They know their power and use it productively. And with time they live, laugh, and love again, with a new kind of hard-earned wisdom.
I’m a divorce coach. I’ve been where you are, and I’m here to help you find your way to a better place.