How To Get Divorced In New Jersey
Before filing for divorce in New Jersey with the courts, you should first consider “how” you want to get divorced. With courts having limitations on their ability to hear cases and move them along in a reasonable timeframe, it is even more important for spouses to consider alternate processes for divorce. Specifically, I am speaking about mediation and collaborative divorce. Mediation and collaborative divorce are two processes that occur outside of the courthouse. Because both are not dependent on the courthouses being open, they can start when spouses are ready. Many mediators and collaborative professionals like myself are able to meet with spouses and couples virtually. We can work out resolutions now. We can help you to work out how you will separate when you are no longer sheltering in place. Mediators and collaborative professionals can also work with you to address issues like child support and alimony concerns due to temporary unemployment due to Covid-19.
If you and your spouse determine that you are unable to work together through mediation or collaborative divorce, you will want to start getting your ducks in a row before you file for divorce. By this I mean, start thinking about how you want your life to look like AFTER divorce. Where do you want to live? Where do you plan for your children to live? What do you want custody to look like? What will your expenses be? By thinking about these questions, you can have a better idea of what are your goals and communicate those to your lawyer and/or the court.
You also want to start collecting information. Gather your documents. Collect bank statements, retirement account statements, credit card bills, mortgage statements, car payments, etc. You will need these as part of the divorce conversation, so the sooner you start organizing this information the more time (and legal fees) you can save later.