These 6 Empowering Words Will Change Your Self Perception And How The World Views You
How you perceive yourself impacts the way you speak and act. How you speak and act shapes the way others perceive you. Divorceify professional and coach, Jennifer Warren Medwin, explains how these 6 words can transform the way you perceive yourself, and in turn the way others perceive you. This post originally appeared on Thrive Global.
How familiar are you with your internal dialogue? The language you use can have a profound impact on your self-image, how you show up in the world, and how you live your life. Words have the power to shape your beliefs and influence your decisions. The way you express yourself, your choice of words, and tone of voice creates energy that either gives you power or takes it away. Speech has the ability to change perception. Making the conscious choice to eliminate disempowering words from your vocabulary can be transformative.
The language you choose can be limiting. You can change your beliefs by being mindful of how you talk. People often use disempowering words such as can’t, have, need, should, never, always, try, and but. Negative words are taken for granted as part of your everyday communication and narrows your mind in a way that cuts you off from other options and possibilities. Additionally, disempowering words have an effect on your feelings and behaviors. They diminish your ability to be the master of your destiny, create discomfort, and decrease the amount of energy you have to move forward in a fulfilling way.
Why set the intention of consciously choosing to use empowering vocabulary? Using positive language will shift your energy levels, elevate your power, and will help reduce resentment and drama in your life. It will also enhance your ability to be a creator instead of a victim. You will become more open to options you didn’t see before. Implementing empowering language can enhance your strength and motivation you need to keep moving forward.
You can begin eliminating disempowering words by identifying them and choosing to reframe your language in a more positive manner.
Disempowering: CAN’T Empowering: WON’T
CAN’T: When you say, “I can’t,” you set yourself up for failure because it means that you are giving up or that you lack the power. It implies a low self-image, helplessness, and a lack of self-control. Using the word also increases your stress level, blocks creativity, and your ability to problem solve.
WON’T: When you say, “I won’t” you assert confidence and self-control. It signifies preference and choice.
Disempowering: HAVE /HAS Empowering: CHOOSE /WANT
HAVE TO/NEED TO: When you say, “I have to or I need to” you are relinquishing your ability to make your own choices and therefore become a victim. Using those words fosters the inner dialogue that creates conditions of powerlessness. Everything is a choice. You don’t “Have to.” You “Do” or “Get to do.”
CHOOSE TO/WANT TO: When you say, “I choose to, or I want to” you acknowledge that you have the right to choose your path.
Disempowering: SHOULD Empowering: CAN/COULD
SHOULD: When you say, “I should” it implies there is a right or wrong way to do something. Thinking you might be wrong is not elevating. It sends a message that you are not in control or worthwhile and don’t want to do something. The word “Should” also signifies a lack of acceptance rather than encouragement.
CAN/COULD: When you say, “I can, or I could” you are reinforcing your freedom and ability to take full ownership.
Disempowering: ALWAYS/NEVER Empowering: SOMETIMES/OFTEN/SELDOM
ALWAYS/NEVER: When you say, “Always or Never” you are trying to prove a point and become position based. Your goal becomes winning instead of understanding and positive resolution. These words encourage awfulizing and catastrophizing thoughts which deplete your energy and cause anxiety.
SOMETIMES/OFTEN/SELDOM: When you say, “Sometimes, often, or seldom” you do not box yourself in and create opportunity for openness and acceptance.
Disempowering: BUT Empowering: AND
BUT: When you say, “But” it causes everything that was said or thought before it to be negated. It often has the effect of changing a neutral statement into a negative one. The word closes off the conversation space or thought process.